Challenges of Caring for Someone With Postpartum Depression

When a parent has postpartum depression (PPD), it can cause a ripple effect, impacting their partner, family, and friends. Postpartum depression is a common form of depression that affects many mothers after giving birth. It is a serious mental health condition that should not be ignored.¹

If you are supporting a loved one with PPD, it is crucial to understand the complexities of the condition. You will need to learn about how it can affect not only the mother but also the whole family group.

Dealing with mood swings, irritability, and anger

Postpartum depression can show up in various ways, including intense mood swings, crying unexpectedly, irritability, and anger. Your loved one may experience moments of extreme sadness followed by bursts of frustration or anger. These emotions are not a reflection of you or the baby. They are symptoms of PPD.^1-3

To help, offer a listening ear without judgment. Let your loved one express their feelings, and validate their experiences. Be open and honest with one another so you can understand each other’s needs and boundaries during this time.^1-3

Also, encourage them to seek professional help, such as therapy and medicine. These treatments have been proven to lessen PPD symptoms.^1-3

Taking care of your own stress, anxiety, or depression

PPD can affect the partners of people who have given birth. The symptoms can be the same in both. For example, partners can struggle with:¹

• Depressed mood
• Changes in appetite or sleep
• Overwhelming tiredness (fatigue)
• Loss of interest in activities

As a caregiver, witnessing your loved one's pain can lead to feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. In fact, when one parent is depressed, the risk of depression increases in the other parent.¹

So, what can you do? Seek support from family, friends, or a therapist who can help you process your feelings. Self-care is not selfish – it is a necessity. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation. By taking care of yourself, you will be better able to provide the support your loved one needs. You will start to feel better, too.^2,3

Feeling isolated

Parenthood can make new parents feel very isolated. As a partner or caregiver, you may feel helpless or disconnected from the person you are trying to support. Try to bridge this gap and let them know they are not alone.^3,4

Encourage your loved one to connect with other new mothers who may be experiencing similar challenges. Support groups, both in-person and online, can provide a sense of community and understanding.^2-4

Support groups are available for partners as well. Take advantage of these resources so that you feel less alone.^2-4

Feeling overwhelmed

It is totally natural to feel overwhelmed when bringing home a baby. Caring for an infant is a 24/7 job. It can be very physically and emotionally taxing.^2,3

While it might seem hard to do, it is important to maintain social connections outside of caregiving. Isolation can contribute to feelings of overwhelm. Make an effort to spend time with friends and loved ones when you can. This could mean a simple phone call or even a text to a close friend. Every little effort counts.⁴

Seek outside help

Caring for someone with postpartum depression is challenging. But your support is essential to their recovery. Remember that PPD is a treatable condition. With the right professional help and a strong support system, both of you can overcome it. Remember to take care of your own mental health and practice healthy ways of coping.