Welcoming a new addition to your family can be a joyful and exciting time. But for some couples, it can also come with the challenging reality of postpartum depression (PPD). When your partner is experiencing PPD, it may be emotionally taxing and overwhelming for both of you.1
How to cope when your partner has postpartum depression
Watching your partner struggle with their mental health is hard, especially when you have a newborn to take care of. Here are some things you can do to make this chapter of life a bit easier.2
Educate yourself
The first step in supporting your partner through postpartum depression is to educate yourself about the condition. When you understand more about PPD – symptoms, causes, and treatment options – you can better care for your partner. Books, online resources, and support groups can be excellent sources of information and advice.2,3
Encourage communication
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship. It is even more vital when dealing with PPD. Create a safe space so your partner can express their feelings and fears openly, without fear of judgment.2
Let them know you are there to listen. Try to understand their perspective. Avoid offering unsolicited advice. Instead, focus on being a compassionate listener.2
Maintain a routine
Establishing a daily routine can bring stability and predictability to caregiving. It can also help the person you are caring for feel more comfortable by knowing what to expect.3
Stay connected
Maintain social connections outside of caregiving. Isolation can add to feelings of overwhelm. So, when possible, make an effort to spend time with friends and other loved ones.4,5
Practice patience
Dealing with postpartum depression can be a long and difficult journey. Be patient and understanding with your partner, even when progress seems slow. Recovery from PPD may not happen the way you expect it to, and there may be setbacks along the way. Your support can make a big difference in their healing process.2,4
How to prevent caregiver burnout
Caregiver burnout is when someone who is taking care of a loved one, like a partner or family member, becomes physically and emotionally exhausted from the constant demands of caregiving. It can feel overwhelming and stressful. Eventually, it can affect the caregiver’s overall well-being. But there are ways to prevent caregiver burnout.3
Get help from family and friends
Do not be afraid to ask for help from those who care about you. Things you can ask for help with include household chores and tasks, meal prep, running errands, and helping with childcare. Practical help goes a long way. Sharing caregiving responsibilities can lighten your load and prevent burnout.2-5
Take breaks
Take short breaks when you need them. Even a few minutes of solitude or relaxation can help you recharge. Ask someone else to watch over the person you are caring for during these breaks.2-5
Practice self-care
Taking care of yourself is not selfish – it is a necessity. You cannot effectively support your partner if you are running on empty. Make sure to get enough rest, eat well, and do things that relax you and bring you joy.2-5
Self-care can simply mean taking a short break to recharge. It also can include:2-5
- Practicing your hobbies
- Exercising
- Meditating
Set boundaries
It is okay to say no to responsibilities or commitments that you cannot handle while caregiving. You cannot do everything. Just focus on the most critical tasks. Setting boundaries is crucial for your own health.3
Seek professional help
Postpartum depression is a type of depression that requires professional treatment. Encourage your partner to speak to a healthcare provider, therapist, or psychiatrist who specializes in PPD. Attending therapy sessions together as a couple can also be helpful. It can help you learn effective coping strategies together as a team.3
Coping with a partner's PPD can be emotionally challenging, but remember that you are not alone. There is hope for recovery from PPD. By educating yourself, seeking professional help, and practicing self-care, you can provide the support your partner needs while avoiding caregiver burnout.